You take your socks off and still see the tops of them in your legs. Really deeply etched into your skin. You can still see where your shoes sat on your feet. Your legs retain too much fluid. Or you have to take your ring off because it’s becoming too … Continue reading →
You stare at your computer screen but don’t know any more what you wanted to look up. you walk to another room to get something and can’t remember what it was. You want to read a few pages but notice that your thoughts wander or become cloudy and an hour … Continue reading →
‘Couldn’t you have thought of that yourself?’ ‘Why can’t you just feel that?’ These are just a few of the reproaches which indicate that someone is disappointed. Or indignant. Someone has an unspoken expectation that someone else didn’t fulfill. And that someone is often a woman, because women are good … Continue reading →
Celebrating your birthday, hooray! It’s the best day of the year. But not everyone feels that way. Many people have bad memories about their birthdays. When it’s their birthday, they don’t feel happy. They like to just skip the day, preferably forgetting that it’s their birthday. There’s something dark about … Continue reading →
Are you familiar with the phenomenon ‘bucket list’? That is a list with all of your great wishes, the ones you want to make come true before you die. Taking a trip overseas, having a reunion with a family member, opening up a yoga studio, writing a book, taking a … Continue reading →
Celebrating New Year’s Eve seems like fun. ‘We have to have a good time.’ Finger foods, watching TV and fireworks at midnight. For many people, it is, however, a moment when they have to try to bear up, because the last days of the year have a way of being … Continue reading →
In the school choir we are practising John Lennon’s song, ‘Happy Xmas (War is Over)’. You may know this song as, ‘So this is Christmas’. I was moved when I realized what we were singing: ‘War is over, if you want it’. Christmas, days of reflection. Looking back at the … Continue reading →
Pain during intercourse is not often spoken about. It is very unpleasant when you want to enjoy intercourse but can’t because it is painful or because penetration is unsuccessful. And what if this doesn’t happen just once, but very often? What effect does that have on your self-confidence? And on … Continue reading →
Sit still, don’t fidget and go sit in your seat. It’s not easy for children who by nature want to move around. They can’t sit still and prefer moving around the entire day. Sit at the table? Ok, for five minutes, five loooooong minutes, and then, they immediately get up … Continue reading →
‘Sorry, honey, we can’t go to the football game tomorrow. Mom has to work.’ ‘No, you can’t have a dog. I’m sorry. I know I promised it to you but it’s just too much for me now.’ ‘Daddy can’t come to your birthday. I’m sorry, honey, you were looking forward … Continue reading →
Do you often sigh, saying “The government doesn’t do anything for us.” That they’re a bunch of “@#$%$#” who spend the whole day filling their pockets. Do you then blame the government for everything that goes wrong in your life? Then you may be partially right, but for the most … Continue reading →
“You are not your thoughts!” You’ve probably heard that before. And it’s so true! Thoughts arise, totally unexpectedly, totally unasked for. Does the thought support you? Does it help you? Or are they thoughts that paralyze you, hinder you or work against you? Most people have thoughts that hinder them. … Continue reading →
Do you have a spot on your body that is red, warm, swollen and hurts? Most likely it’s an inflammation. It probably bothers you because it will undoubtedly hinder you. And that’s exactly your body’s intention! The body is incredibly clever! The more I study it, the more impressed I … Continue reading →
People who do the MIR-Method may experience more frustration. They may become crabby, cranky and sometimes just bitchy. Yes, men as well! With their eyebrows pulled close together and showing deep furrows in their foreheads. The corners of their mouths pointing down and teeth clenched. These are all outward signs … Continue reading →
Saying what you really feel about what’s going on inside of you. What you are worried about, why you are so happy with someone. It’s something that most people aren’t used to. At school you learn knowledge, facts and skills. In your work, it’s all about facts and numbers. But … Continue reading →
How much did you enjoy your school years? Were they fun? Were you in a nice class with a good teacher? Did the others notice you? Were you able to develop in the subjects you had an aptitude for? Did you feel like there was room to experiment? To make … Continue reading →
Coughing is prevalent during the winter months. Viruses and bacteria are around the whole year, but in the winter we are more susceptible to them. People ventilate their homes less, are tired, go outside with a warm jacket but also go into stores with their warm jackets on. Warm, cold, … Continue reading →
Thoughts have strength. What you think influences your reality. The words you choose are a reflection of your inner life. Do you speak negatively about what you see? Do you curse inwardly about what’s going on? These are automatisms we were taught starting as young children. We heard a lot … Continue reading →
People waste their time. I can’t describe it any other way. When I see people wasting their time while there is so much more to them. It’s the opposite of what I earlier wrote about relaxing, although relaxing is also necessary. But I’m concerned here about the illusion that you … Continue reading →
If you do step 3 of the MIR-Method, “Detach father. Detach mother”, you also detach yourself from your son or daughter. “Father” symbolizes all men and boys; “Mother” stands for all women and daughters. When you read that for the first time, it’s possible that you think, “But I don’t … Continue reading →
A lot of people don’t like doing step 3 of the MIR-Method, “Detach mother”. “I don’t want to detach my mother. She’s so sweet.” “She was always there for us. Thanks to her I had a great childhood. Why do I have to detach myself from her?” “My mother passed … Continue reading →
Do you wash down your food by drinking something? Soda? Water? Tea? Wine? It’s a common habit that most people have. It makes it easier for us to get rid of food, to swallow it. Yet, it is one of the unhealthiest habits that exist. Not digesting is food thrown … Continue reading →
“Detach father”, step 3 of the MIR-Method, often leads to a discussion. “I don’t want to detach myself from my father. I’ve got such a good relationship with him.” “I had a wonderful childhood, why should I detach myself from my parents?” “My father died; it doesn’t feel good to … Continue reading →
The eating habits of people who do the MIR-Method vary their eating habits. They desire sweet less and salt more. They feel the need for sweet at moments, and don’t touch salt. Sometimes they eat a lot fruit, and then there are periods without it. The eating pattern of someone … Continue reading →
Coming home should be nice. Coming home to your own, familiar house. To the people who love you and are focused on you. Still, there are many people who are not familiar with this. Who went home reluctantly, worried about what they might come across there. Maybe there was a … Continue reading →
