162. Moving House: Wonderful or Horrible?
The decision has been made. You’re going to move! If you’re an adult, it’s a conscious choice and often gives you energy. You’re looking forward to the prospect of something new! If you were a child, you had two possible reactions: horrible anxiety or happy excitement. I hope that you, as I did, loved moving. New surroundings and new people. But if you didn’t like it, it can have deeply scarred you. Moving turns out to be the 2nd greatest factor of stress in a human’s life, right after number 1, the death of a loved one. It can be that intense.
Each move causes stress, including wonderful moves. You look forward to the new place, the house, and the village or city where you will be meeting new people. If you go through a wonderful move, that is fairly innocuous. You can handle the stress that this brings. The tiler who doesn’t deliver on time or the painting that gets damaged during the move, for example. The moving van that arrives 1½ hours late at the new house. It is stress but not disruptive stress. You can handle it. And when the move is over, it’s a question of relaxing and letting the dust settle. You’ve had a happy move!
Moving house horrible?
If, instead, you’ve a horrible move then the stress factor is easily 10 times as high. Children who move can experience it as a complete shock. Their parents announce it as something to be happy about. New room, new house and bigger garden. But when you think about it more as a child, you also see the other side. Saying goodbye to your friends, leaving your familiar room and fear of the unknown. The result is that a child can feel uprooted, displaced. As if their safe home base has been ripped away from under their feet. It can even cause a disturbance in your body. Your root chakra can become disrupted by it, as well as your kidney meridian (because of anxiety) or lung meridian (because of having to say goodbye).
Being forced to move is horrible experience. You are forced to leave a safe haven, a familiar place. You have to leave everything behind. The view of the tree, the contact with your neighbor, your habit of walking around the neighborhood, the regular parking space, the noises you were used to and the smells in and round the house. You have to let go of everything, completely against your will, because you’re a child and don’t have a voice in the decision. Or simply because you had to move for another reason. Leaving your home undermines all feelings of security and that touches you very deeply. For the rest of your life, you may have difficulty when circumstances change. You want nothing more than to keep everything as it is.
Being flexible with change
If you do the MIR-Method, you’ll find that you can deal better with moves and changes. You become more flexible. You can adjust more easily to new circumstances. And this is especially necessary when moving. Remember to do the 9 steps regularly when you’re in the middle of moving. Often there is so much stress involved that it’s difficult to find a quiet moment for yourself.
In the hope that the move will eventually bring you much happiness!
And how about you? Do you recognize not enjoying moving as a child? Can you cope better with it now thanks to the MIR-Method? I’d love to hear about it! Please write about it below. Thank you!
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