There are, roughly speaking, two types of people: people who give you energy and people who cost you energy. You’re visiting someone and halfway through the visit you begin to yawn and become increasingly tired in spite of having been fit when you entered. Your head is becoming increasingly foggy. You don’t know what to say anymore and just let the other person talk. Someone who saps your energy!
Stamp of judgment
It’s a strange phenomenon and I don’t like talking about it because it labels people. When you say that someone “saps energy”, you are judging that person. And make no mistake. Someone who saps one person’s energy doesn’t necessarily do that for another person! And important: this can change during someone’s life! During some periods, we all cost other people energy depending on how good we feel and how independent we are. People who cost energy are experiencing a period of imbalance. They are grieving or under a great deal of stress. And you can clearly feel that.
In small doses
Should you then just avoid these people? No. It’s an art to learn how to deal with these people and you do that by having contact with them in small doses. Not too many of them in 1 week. If you have appointments with several of them on one day, postpone one appointment for a week. Then you decide for yourself how many hours you want to be with someone and keep to it. If it’s past that time and you haven’t left yet, you’ll realize later that you’ve become too tired. No problem. You just try to do it better next time. The art is seeing what you can learn from this each time!
What do you learn from them?
People who sap your energy are always unconsciously trying to trigger you. They touch one of your weak spots. So they help you with your development! For example, they can teach you to express your boundaries. “I’ve got time until 11:00 o’clock and then I have to leave.” Even if the other person continues to talk, just walk to your coat, put it on while you listen and then say, “I’m sorry, but I really must leave now”. Then just open the door and walk away.
You can practice being serious about your intuition. When you want to leave, then also leave. Literally distance yourself to protect your energy. Just go stand a few feet away. Or go get something to drink. Or use the restroom.
Intuition becomes stronger with the MIR-Method
If you do the MIR-Method, you sharpen your ability to feel. You feel more clearly which people you enjoy being around and which you don’t. That’s because, among other things, you become more comfortable with your own body through step 8: ‘Optimize chakras and aura’. Your root chakra becomes stronger and you are earthed better, which causes you to perceive more clearly what is really happening.
You immediately notice that some people are better suited to you and others less. Or, that they temporarily don’t fit you. Once you’ve grown, that contact restores itself and you can get along very well with the “energy sapper”. And… your energy remains intact!
You are responsible
In the end, you are the biggest problem. You give your energy away,
– because you’d like to help,
– because you are sympathetic to the other person,
– because you’re afraid the other person will become angry or
– because you’ve learned that that is how it is done.
That’s why you can’t really say that someone is sapping your energy, but that you are a leaky faucet! The responsibility is always yours, not the other person’s.
With step 7: ‘Supplement basic needs’, you supplement your need for Responsibility. It may not be easy to accept but always very good when you do this because it means that you are in control again! You decide what is done with your energy. You take responsibility for your part. A world of difference!
And how about you? Have you noticed that you are stronger when it comes to “energy sappers”? That you are no longer a leaky faucet? I’d love to hear about how the MIR-Method has helped you. Please write about it below. Thank you!
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