Communication consists of 3 things: words, the tone of your words, and body language. If you say, “I love you”, to someone, it seems strange for you to stand with your back to that person. And saying, “I love you”, in a very monotone voice doesn’t seem convincing. It’s better … Continue reading →
Pain during intercourse is not often spoken about. It is very unpleasant when you want to enjoy intercourse but can’t because it is painful or because penetration is unsuccessful. And what if this doesn’t happen just once, but very often? What effect does that have on your self-confidence? And on … Continue reading →
People enjoy making love. They can lose themselves in each other, caressing each other, kissing and get a lot of energy from it. It is a natural source of energy that can make the eyes shine again and improve the skin. Making love is a natural way of expressing life … Continue reading →
“It’s your fault! You should have paid attention!” “Because of you, we’re too late now!” “Why isn’t it finished yet? You were supposed to make sure that it was ready!” Blamers always see other people’s mistakes everywhere and forget their own part. For example, at weddings where brides are trying … Continue reading →
In the middle of the night you suddenly get muscle cramps. Ouch, that hurts so much!!! Rubbing, stretching and putting pressure on it; you do all kinds of things to get rid of the pain as quickly as possible. It is a particularly cruel phenomenon! And the following day, the … Continue reading →
Alone in the world. Some people have “no one”. Friends have died or gone away. After a divorce, friends chose the ex. Family is no longer there, or lives far away in another country. These people have little or no contact with others. They turn the television on to see … Continue reading →
The MIR-Method has many effects on your inner life. You throw away old burdens and you clear up hindrances. That causes you to feel less held back by your old patterns. One of those patterns is taking other people into consideration. Sometimes you see it in how you react to … Continue reading →
People are inspirers. They influence each other, encourage each other and give each other hope. Yes, I know that it’s usually the other way around, but I’d like to let you look at a very special phenomenon. And that is that one phrase. That one golden statement that can determine … Continue reading →
Grinding teeth, waking up in the morning with clenched jaws, painful teeth and liking to chew during the day: chips, gum or candy. They are all clues that you are under too much stress. Stress develops when you are frustrated or angry but don’t do enough with it. You store … Continue reading →
Urine leakage, not being able to hold your pee, is very unpleasant. Suffering from this, there is always a big risk of peeing in your pants. It can happen when you cough, sneeze, jump, but also just because your bladder empties too quickly. You may think it is something that … Continue reading →
Grandma gives you one of those itchy hand knit sweaters. You don’t like it, you don’t feel comfortable in it and yet, you still have to be thankful for it. “Shouldn’t you thank your Grandmother?” “Thank you Grandma,” you say dutifully. Gratitude feels uncomfortable to many people. The feeling that … Continue reading →
Not being able to forgive yourself is the most poisonous thing there is. Berating yourself, punishing yourself such as, “Nothing I do is good, it’s my fault”, “If I hadn’t been here, it would have gone well”, “If only I hadn’t been born”, “Sorry for my existence”. These are strong … Continue reading →
No one wants conflicts. Nobody wants to argue. And yet, they often happen. Is it a mistake in our DNA? Is it inherent to being human? Do there always have to be arguments and conflicts? Or can we rise above ourselves and solve conflicts? How do conflicts develop? It’s very … Continue reading →
“Your brother says that you broke this statue. Did you?” “No.” “Oh, come one, you always break things. Think again, did you let it fall by accident?” “There’s a ghost in my room!” “Oh, go to sleep, there’s nothing there!” Click, light on. “See, there’s nothing. Now go to sleep … Continue reading →
Being decisive, making decisions. Choosing one thing and letting the other go. Making a choice is not easy. We are afraid of making the wrong decision; afraid of losing something. And what will replace that? Am I doing the right thing? Is this the right decision? It can sometimes drive … Continue reading →
The 9 steps of the MIR-Method are a complete set together. All 9 steps work on everything that is important for your life. The last step is very important in this: “Clarify mission”. When I was testing this step in the MIR-Method, I was confused at first. Wasn’t I working … Continue reading →
Sexual tension is often hard to find in a relationship. The toothbrushes stand cozily next to each other in a glass and that’s as far as intimacy goes. One of the partner’s libidos can change or completely disappear in long-term relationships. Still, it doesn’t have to be lasting, as this … Continue reading →
Recipe for holding onto a busy life: keeping balls in the air. Throw them high enough so you have enough time to keep the other balls in the air. Keep arms, back and shoulders in the same position. Make quick movements, use ultimate concentration and keep those balls from falling. … Continue reading →
“If you do the MIR-Method, your self-love grows.” That is quite a statement. However, I know that the MIR-Method has the potential for this and I see it happening to a lot of people. And “loving yourself” is often in the smallest things. What does it mean, “to love yourself”? … Continue reading →
One of the advantages of the MIR-Method is that it brings people closer together. People notice becoming milder towards other people and being able to see more quickly what the other person is struggling with. Often, people who seem angry are actually afraid or hurt. I have heard several times … Continue reading →
