54. Incontinence, Urine Leakage, Cause and Effect of Insecurity
Urine leakage, not being able to hold your pee, is very unpleasant. Suffering from this, there is always a big risk of peeing in your pants. It can happen when you cough, sneeze, jump, but also just because your bladder empties too quickly. You may think it is something that only affects the elderly, but it isn’t! Approximately 18 million people in the United States of America suffer from urine leakage, men as well as women. It also often happens to women after they have given birth.
Deep, deep shame
I remember a very embarrassing incident. I was studying in Utrecht and lived in a house for students. One day, I was standing on the first floor looking out the window, when a ca. 50-year old newspaper deliverer came. She put the paper in the mailbox, stood still in our little garden and quickly looked to the left and right. That caught my attention and I continued to watch her. To my surprise, she dropped her pants and squatted in our garden. Indignantly, I knocked on the window, after which she quickly pulled up her pants and left. “How dare she!” I thought, in my ignorance. A quarter of an hour later, the doorbell rang. The newspaper deliverer. She came to apologize and explained that she couldn’t hold it. Another apology and I said, “No problem. I understand.” I closed the door. Afterwards, the sledgehammer in my brain: how must it have been for the woman for me to treat her like that? I felt deeply, profoundly ashamed. And I’ve often said, “I’m sorry” to that woman in my thoughts. If I had seen her again, I would have made the offer for her to always use our toilet.
Incontinence or urine leakage, is something that can have a profound impact on daily life. You have to take into consideration how long you are with a group of people. Travelling becomes difficult. You adjust your clothing, especially wearing dark colors. And have the concern that it may smell. People can be so ashamed that they close themselves off to their partners and interest in love-making wanes. There is only 1 solution to this: talk about it! A man who told his wife about his urine leakage said that his wife was relieved. She thought that he was cheating on her!
I once wrote an article about this: Frequent Urination, an Irritating Problem. That has some things in common with incontinence. People who can’t hold their urine often go to the toilet, usually every half hour. And often drip in-between. If they feel a lot of pressure on their bladder, by sneezing, laughing or jumping for example, a stream with a lot of urine can flow, causing them to need to change their clothes. Not exactly a nice situation if you’re far from home. Incontinence can therefore isolate you. Thankfully, there are now washable towels for it, such as Tena lady, but also chair and mattress protectors.
Solutions for urine leakage
One of the most often suggested solutions is doing pelvic muscle-strengthening exercises. The pelvic floor is a group of muscles that support the organs in the bottom of the abdomen and controls peeing and pooping. If the muscles in your pelvic floor don’t function properly, problems such as urine leakage can develop. There are even specially trained physical therapists, called “pelvic floor physiotherapists”. This type of exercise works well, on the condition that you do them faithfully each day for six months. That’s possible with the support of the pelvic floor physiotherapist. Check your health insurer for coverage!
The MIR-Method and urine leakage
With the MIR-Method it is possible to work on the underlying causes of incontinence.
With step 4: “Clear meridians” you work on removing the blockages to all your meridians. One of these meridians is the “bladder meridian”. This meridian becomes blocked by insecurity and fear. That often happens when you have to make a big decision.
With step 5: “Supplement all shortages” you work on supplementing nutrient deficiencies. With these nutrients your body can produce new substances, such as hormones. One of those hormones is ADH, the Anti-diuretic Hormone. When the pituitary gland in your brain doesn’t produce enough of this hormone, you pee too often. When your body replenishes the ADH, you can hold your urine better.
Step 7: “Fulfill basic needs” is very important for dealing with urine leakage. If you don’t feel safe from within, that causes insecurity. This has an effect on your bladder, among others, via your bladder meridian. Step 7 includes the basic need “Safety”. You will slowly but surely strengthen this, which will cause you to feel more self-confident, and the urine leakage will stop.
And finally, there is another very important step, nr. 8: “Optimize Chakras and Aura”. With this step you work on all your chakras, layer for layer, and therefore also on chakra 1, the backbone chakra. When this is disrupted, it’s because you don’t feel safe on this earth. You have the feeling that you don’t want to be here. Or you were looked over in your youth, not seen nor heard. That could have given you the feeling that you shouldn’t be here. This also disrupts chakra 1. If you work with the MIR-Method to strengthen chakra 1, you will strengthen your pelvic floor and the urine leakage will stop.
Always do all 9 steps!
Even though I’m only describing a few of the steps now, always do all of 9 steps! They work together and one can’t work without the other. If you would like to know how the MIR-Method works and hear about the 9 steps, please watch the instruction video.
What about you? Has the MIR-Method already helped you hold your urine better? I’d love to hear about it! Thank you!
Heartfelt greetings and I wish you much inner security!
P.S. Will you help spread the MIR-Method? You would do me a big favor by forwarding this article to other people! Feel free to post it to your Facebook page or send it via e-mail, Twitter or Linked-In! Use the icons on the left-hand side or below! Thank you!
P.S. Not familiar with the MIR-Method yet? Please go to the homepage. You can watch the video there and also the instruction video. Sign up for our newsletter and 6 weeks of coaching e-mails for extra support!
I have been using The MIR methode on and of ( of late continuously) because of issues regarding depression and divorce, but also because of a chronic backache caused by a scoliosis. That is when a fysiotherapisttold me about Your method. But so far no improvement with the backache; but my mental stability has improved.
The name of The fysiotherapist is Ninon Tjong Ayong.
I am temporarily in Curacao because of family matters, and have recommended The method to several people. Somehow I am on your mailing list,thanks
Maybe you should be on the Dutch mailing list? Thank you for letting me know how the MIR-Method works for you. Please realise that backaches can take a long time. Your body needs to work out the deep causes of the aches. I am glad you combine it with fysiotherapy. Good luck!
Greetings, Mireille Mettes