55. Worrying About Your Sick Loved One
Yesterday I went with a friend to the hospital. What an overwhelming experience! The smell as you walk in. The maze of hallways and signs. Seriously ill patients being taken around in their beds. The hairdresser with wigs in the window display. The stress that exudes from so many people. The concerned looks, the woman crying in the hallway. There are so many intense emotions in a hospital. For this reason alone I did the MIR-Method during the wait. And then all of your own insecurities. I wanted to ask her about 10 times: “Are you afraid?” but how would that make her feel? No, then just small talk. Complaining about the long wait, the watery coffee. I see her walk away, through the door to the scan. The moment that she walks around the corner to a possible visibly bad diagnosis. If only I could take her place. Did I really think that? No, not that, but I sure would have loved to spare her this! On the way back she fell asleep from the intense experience. It was good news. Thank God. And I was grateful that I could be with her.
When you suddenly become a caregiver
When you have to bring someone dear to you to the hospital: family, a friend, your partner, your child, you are facing an intense period. It begins the moment you hear about it. Then a period follows of worrying about it. Then the day before the visit. Your loved one is worried, nervous. It’s logical. And you as caregiver? How are you? You disregard yourself. You direct your attention to the other person and try to comfort them. All the while the worry is eating away at you. What if things don’t go well? What if the results are bad and we have to deal with much bigger problems? What if the other person never leaves the hospital?
Alone with your concerns and fears
These are concerns that keep you occupied but which you can’t share. Maybe with someone else, but not so easily with your loved one. What if you upset the other person even more? Or make them afraid? You want to prevent this. So you keep your worries and your fears to yourself.
The MIR-Method is always on hand
The MIR-Method can be a big help to you during this period. As soon as you notice that worrying is getting the upper hand, do the 9 steps. During this period, you can do it more often than usual. You help yourself get through the difficult day. Every time something happens that moves you, that brings you out of balance, do the 9 steps as soon as possible. If you are downstairs in the hospital, waiting until an operation is over. If you have to watch how a drip was attached to your child and you saw how painful that was for the child. How helpless you felt; the “I wish I could take my child’s place”. Your partner’s defeated look when the doctor gave the bad news. They are all moments that can profoundly traumatize you and stay with you for a long time. If you do the MIR-Method as soon as possible afterwards, you can stroke away much of the emotional pain and upset. You calm your subconscious and give it attention so it can let go of the traumatic experience.
Which steps do most of the work?
Step 4: “Clear meridians” is one of the most important steps because of all the emotions you can let go of again through your meridians.
Step 3: “Detach father. Detach mother.” is one of the most necessary steps because of all the emotions of other people you absorb in your subconscious while in the hospital.
Step 8: “Optimize Chakras and Aura” helps you to keep yourself free from all of the stimuli coming in via your aura.
Although I’ve only explained a few of the steps here, it is important to always do all 9 steps!
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I am three weeks from having breast cancer lumpectomy. All lymph nodes and margins are clear so I just need radiation and five years of a drug. I am doing the MIR-Method on my daughter’s recommendation and have found relief immediately. I pray and I am a Christian, this coincides with my belief system.
Thank you for giving the MIR-Method a try! I am glad you feel it it works good for you. I wil pray for you too that you may recover and regain your health!
Good luck and with love,