43. Stressless choosing and making decisions
Being decisive, making decisions. Choosing one thing and letting the other go. Making a choice is not easy. We are afraid of making the wrong decision; afraid of losing something. And what will replace that? Am I doing the right thing? Is this the right decision? It can sometimes drive you crazy when you have to make a choice and don’t know what to do. Go left or right? Standing at a crossroads is a difficult moment in a person’s life. It can take days, weeks, even months before the decision is made. And once the decision is made, the great relax-moment follows with the free fall into the unknown.
It’s like one of those water slides. You‘re standing at the top and thinking: “Should I or shouldn’t I?” Water is gushing past you on all sides and everything seems to tell you: “Go!” But you don’t know where the slide will lead to, or if you will get there without colliding or being bludgeoned or if you will eventually get there safely. Maybe it’s dark, or you get disoriented or rub your new swimsuit on the bottom. What if someone comes too quickly after you and lands on top of you? What if the person in front of you is slower and you collide into them? What if, what if, what if…?
Remain standing behind your decision
Some people always doubt after a decision. They have made a decision; it’s done. But then they look back: “Did I do the right thing?” “Maybe I should have chosen the other thing?” And, oh woe, if someone then says to them: “Did you do the right thing?”, then there’s really a problem! This born and bred doubter becomes stressed: “I didn’t do the right thing!” Questioning your decisions is an energy-devouring use of your time, which leads to nothing. You learn this during your youth. You are allowed to choose something and choose the ice cream, but your mother says: “You could also choose the rubber ball or the key chain; that is healthier”. That can happen once, but if it happens with nearly every decision you have to make, it causes your ability to make decisions to waver and you learn not to trust yourself.
The MIR-Method and your ability to make decisions
The MIR-Method helps people who have problems making decisions. I will explain why with each step:
Step 1: “Optimize acidity” helps you to think clearly because you breathe better and it supports step 2.
Step 2: “Detox all toxicity”. Waste products, which cloud your ability to think clearly, are disposed of.
Step 3: “Detach father. Detach mother”. Parents have a lot of influence on your ability to make decisions. What was their example? Were they able to decide quickly and to stick to their decisions? Or did they doubt, pondering long and including you as a child in their decisions? And when they made a decision, were they content with it or did they still continue to doubt about whether they had done the right thing? With step 3, you detach this modeled behavior from your system.
Step 4: “Clear meridians”. The bladder meridian is determinative when making decisions. If this meridian is disturbed, you will feel insecure and fearful about making decisions. The spleen meridian helps you be independent and to have trust in the future. If this meridian is disturbed, then you act dependent on others and don’t like to look at the future and at the consequences of your decisions.
Step 5: “Supplement all shortages”. Deficiencies of minerals that are important for your brain will hinder your ability to think clearly. When your body produces too little of the male hormone testosterone, you miss decisiveness.
Step 6: “Balance hormone system”. An imbalanced hormone system creates an emotional imbalance. This causes emotions to become dominant, and clear, down-to-earth, analytical thinking and decision-making to become over-shadowed by vague, hindering emotions.
Step 7: “Fulfill basic needs”. Security, Protection, Self-confidence and Independence are a few of the basic needs that are important when it comes to making decisions. If you make a decision that is supported by your own feelings of security and protection, from a place of self-confidence and independence, then you have made a decision that remains strong and no one can change your mind about it.
Step 8: “Optimize Chakras and Aura”. Chakra 3, in your abdomen, gives you Willpower. If this chakra is optimal, you will excel at feeling your own will. You can make decisions easily. If chakra 1, situated at your tailbone, is strong it gives you strong legs and a strong backbone so you can stand behind your decision.
Step 9: “Clarify mission”. The clearer you are about where you want to go, the easier it becomes to make choices. You see clearly where you are headed. The decisions seem to come as if by themselves. Like a warm knife cutting through butter.
How about you? Have you noticed that you are able to make more powerful decisions through the MIR-Method? Have you been decisive about anything recently?
I wish you much pleasure and little stress making choices!
With hearty greetings,
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Isn’t point 2, detox all toxicity?
Love your tool and spreading it all around 🙂
Thanks so much,
Thank you SO much for spreading it all around! I guess Brussels needs quite a lot of love!
Yes, step 2 is ‘detox all toxicity’. Where do you see different words?
Greetings, Mireille Mettes
Hello Dear Mireille, Sophie noticed you wrote
detox all acidity in this article on Stressless Choosing, and ofcourse you intended to write
Detox all toxicity, like you said.
Thank you for showing us ways to live wonderfully now.
With kind regards,
Oops, did I forget to correct it? Thank you for pointing it out to me! Have corrected it now. Thank you!
Greetings, Mireille Mettes
Many thanks for your explanations on the many facets of the the MIR method. I try
to practice everyday. Your explanations help give meaning to the purpose of this
All the best to you and your family in 2015!
Thank you so much for responding! Great to see you are from the USA. Hope the MIR-Method will spread so much more to your country. Hope to hear from you what improvements you notice!
Greetings and all the best to you and your family too!
Wishing you a wonderful festive season and a happy, prosperous and deliciously fulfilling 2015.
Thanks for these informative posts and look forward to many more in the future.
Thank you for your kind words! Hope the same for you! I must say it is quite thrilling to see you are from Northern-Ireland! I have wished very often for the MIR-Method to reach Northern-Ireland for all the pain and grief that has been there in the past. Hope the MIR-Methode helps you well and you spread it around!
Good luck and good health!
Mireille from Netherlands