The MIR-Method has many effects on your inner life. You throw away old burdens and you clear up hindrances. That causes you to feel less held back by your old patterns. One of those patterns is taking other people into consideration. Sometimes you see it in how you react to someone who comes to visit. Does the thought of their coming already make you nervous? Do you start cleaning up? Fold the wash? Quickly do the dishes? Is the garden neat enough? Do I still have stains on my clothes? Is the children’s hair neat enough? They should have actually gone to the hairdresser but there’s no more time for that…
How do you react to comments?
Visitors! Stress! I often hear people around me mentioning it. Quickly, clean up! It seems to be a stubborn thing. You continue to be nervous when company comes. The cause can be found in your childhood. Parents who were critical, who always made comments, made you feel nervous as a child. The fear of doing the wrong thing, of being rejected, is then huge and it subconsciously remains in your system.
Teasing the child
What I never understood is why children have to wear especially nice Sunday clothes. Then there was the visit at your grandparents and after the required sitting still and letting the grown-ups talk, you were allowed outside to play. But, of course, it’s dirty outside: mud, puddles or that wonderful green stuff on trees. And what was the reception to your dirty clothes when you came inside again? Your parents’ reaction is determinate for your life. Plus the way you reacted to it. Did it give you the feeling that it was better not to go on adventures? That it’s better not to get dirty, to make mistakes? Did it cause you to not dare to undertake things? To rather not get your hands dirty? Rather not start anything?
Test of approval
How do you know if you are free, or if you let other people limit you? You know that by how you act when company’s coming. Test yourself with the answers to these questions:
- Does it matter to you how what they’re going to comment?
- Do you suddenly start to clean up?
If you are nervous and you do your best to clear up the daily mess, then you are still trying to get your father or mother’s approval! If you don’t care and you feel completely free to show what your house looks like, how things are done, then there is a lot of inner freedom because you approve of yourself!
Release through the MIR-Method
Daily getting a lot of comments and criticism from your father of mother causes you to constantly be trained in “sit and give everyone a paw”. It makes you less able to make decisions when someone else doesn’t agree with you. What would he/she think? It keeps you dependent. The MIR-Method causes the dependence to slowly but surely leave your system. It gives you inner freedom.
- That comes, of course, from step 3: “Detach father. Detach mother”, as you probably already thought.
- And it also comes from step 7: “Fulfill basic needs”. The basic need for “Approval” is fulfilled and from now on, you can give yourself approval.
And how freeing is that! That you can say to yourself: “I’m good enough just as I am!” Or: “I did it well,” or “I made this decision and it’s good”. And it doesn’t matter that someone else has something to say about it. It’s his/her opinion and has nothing to do with you! Pure freedom!
And how about you? Have you noticed that what other people have to say bothers you less since doing the MIR-Method? Do you approve of yourself now? Please let me know about it below. Thank you!
My wish for you is that you can live fully free, released from other people’s comments!
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