What does anger mean to you? Is it threatening? Do you think it makes you seem weak when you show that you’re angry? Do you restrain yourself, because the other person doesn’t listen anyway? Or, because the other person may begin a counterattack? Or, are you afraid that you will then explode, that you will show too much anger? Or, don’t you ever feel angry? Don’t you notice it when something bothers you? Is everything always okay and do you like keeping the peace? “Come, let’s not get angry. Let’s talk calmly about it with each other.”

Fear of arguments

Many adults learned as children not to get angry, they learned to prevent arguments. Keep quiet. Swallow it. Because if you get angry, there’s a chance that it will cause an argument and you won’t be strong enough. So, repress your anger. Don’t argue! The adults who taught this to children are the ones who are always nice, keeping the peace. The cloak of love…. they are very good at keeping themselves under control. They feel that there has been some kind of injustice, but quickly move on past what they want themselves. Because otherwise, there will be an argument! And they repress their anger; they keep it inside.

Then puberty came

How did things go during puberty? This is the moment that you became stronger as a child and you could open your mouth. The moment that you could disagree, in which you could stick up for yourself. Did you do that? Did you rebel? Did you drive your father crazy? Did you yell at your mother, all the way from the tips of your toes? It’s no fun, but it is necessary. As a young person, it is necessary for you to feel what it means to be angry and to express your anger. That is often unfocussed, but you need to feel what it means to be angry and to express it. You need to experience that strong energy and see that you have influence on other people because of it. It’s up to parents to realize that this is part of growing up and that they can be proud of you for sticking up for yourself.

Repressing anger is bad for your health

People who never get angry are deceiving themselves. Everyone gets angry once in a while. If you decide not to vent your anger, it will tax your body. Your liver and gall bladder can suffer from this. Repressed anger causes illness. Expressing your anger is much healthier, but then in a way that is acceptable to the people around you. We need to take a look at anger. I wrote an article about this, article 15 ‘Angry? Wear Your Heart on Your Sleeve!’. 
If you take a look at anger, you realize that there is something wonderful about it and that there is strength in it! 
And, have you been feeling angry more often? Feel the enormous energy it contains. I am often grateful to angry people! They bring about change!

The MIR-Method and becoming angry

If you do the 9 steps of the MIR-Method, your subconscious works in many ways to free you. In article 15 I described what happens, step-by-step. You begin to feel as you were intended to, according to your original blueprint. And that means that you will be faithful to your emotions, including your anger, because that is the gauge that something is not going the way you’d like it to. By doing the MIR-Method, you become more in touch with what you would like, with what is important to you. If you never get angry, it’s possible that you will become a bit crabbier, a little crankier and sometimes explode. No fun but necessary because you are beginning to feel that something needs to change and that you no longer accept the way it is now. Super!

Have you also noticed that you become angry more easily since doing the MIR-Method? That you don’t always just want to keep the peace anymore and that you are shortchanging yourself when you do? I’d love to hear about it! Please write about it below. Thank you!

My wish is that you can enjoy the strength of the power hidden behind your anger!
Greetings, Mireille Mettes

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