“You are not your thoughts!” You’ve probably heard that before. And it’s so true! Thoughts arise, totally unexpectedly, totally unasked for. Does the thought support you? Does it help you? Or are they thoughts that paralyze you, hinder you or work against you? Most people have thoughts that hinder them. Thoughts about things you can’t do anything about, or concerns you are afraid of.
Who is speaking?
There is a specific type of thought that often arises in you when you want to take a step, when you want to grow. That thought is a voice from the past. Often they are the words of your family members, often well meant, but very unhandy, who wanted to prepare you for life. “No, you can’t do that.” “Are you sure you should do that?” “Watch out, that you don’t go off in all directions at the same time.” “That’s not going to work, just as it didn’t the last time. It’s this type of phrase that comes into your mind the moment you want to do something.
They can even be your own internal thoughts. Experiences from the past… “It’ll never work; it didn’t the last time, either.” “I’m not clever enough for that.” “It doesn’t matter because someone else can do it better than I.” “I’m too old for that now.” “I don’t even need to try because so many people are already doing it.” “I’d be crazy to try.”
Disagree with your thoughts
Your thoughts are only thoughts. That’s all. They pop up in your mind but you don’t have to take them seriously. They don’t like my writing that, but it’s true! What can you do about them? Talk back to them! Answer your thoughts and reassure them. Or just simply disagree with them. “Yes, I think it’s nerve-wracking but I’m going to do it anyway! No, I’m not in danger.” “No, I’m not going crazy. You say it to me so often, but I’m not going crazy. I just want to try something new! Just let me try it so I can grow.”
One of the best pieces of advice I’ve heard about hyperventilation is that you should tell yourself, “I’m not dying. I’ve just got too much oxygen.” Keep repeating that in your mind. As a caregiver, this is also very useful. If someone is hyperventilating, say to him or her, “You’re not dying. You’ve just got too much oxygen. It’ll be all right.” And repeat this many times. It reassures someone, which calms his or her breathing. Give him or her a bag to breathe into (a sandwich bag, for example; take the sandwiches out and put it around the nose and mouth). That helps to restore balance in the oxygen level.
If you want to deal even more with your thoughts, you can also speak positively to yourself. You say to yourself, for example, “You did really well!” “Very brave of you to go anyway!” “You can do it, step by step!” “Hey, a pat on the back for that!”, and then giving your left shoulder a pat with your right hand. That touches your body more deeply. You pat it right into your cells. Encouraging yourself is one of the most beautiful things. It’s a form of self-love and one of the strongest kind! Please do it and do it often!
Thoughts and the MIR-Method
In the MIR-Method, various steps are incorporated which change your inner chain of thoughts.
Through the detachment with step 3: ‘Detach father. Detach mother’, you detach yourself from thoughts that were imprinted in the past.
With step 4: ‘Clear meridians’, you enable the blockages in your meridians to dissolve, causing bitter thoughts, hopeless thoughts and destructive thoughts to disappear from your mind. More loving thoughts take their place.
With step 5: ‘Supplement all shortages’, you supplement the nutritional deficiencies in your body, through which brooding and fretting diminish. These could be the vitamins D, B12, B6 or minerals, for example.
Step 6: ‘Balance hormone system’ causes you, for example, to use testosterone for dealing with negative thoughts. You become more empowered towards your own internal negativity.
Step 7: ‘Fulfill basic needs’, is important because you supplement your own Self-worth and Self-love. Your Encouragement and Respect for yourself as well. They help you to have more positive thoughts about yourself and by doing this, to re-write the old negative thoughts.
Do you also notice that by doing the MIR-Method, you’ve got happier, more loving thoughts about yourself? I’d love to read about it! Please write it below. Thank you!
My wish for you is that your thoughts become refreshed and happier and that they fully encourage you!
Greetings, Mireille Mettes
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