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132. But I Don’t Want to Detach Myself From My Mother! — 11 Comments

  1. Hello, I am hopeful when. I try this. I am adopted and at some point the mother figure wanted to return me but my father wouldn’t let her. Before I knew that information (that she told be directly herself) I was doing everything in my power to get her to like me as a 7 year old girl.

  2. I am going to try this. i have lived my whole life trying to please my mother and live up to her expectations. I live with guilt and anxiety. Thank you for posting this.

    • Dear Nancy,
      Oh yes, and sooooo many women with you! Thank you for trying and please keep me informed!
      Greetings, Mireille Mettes

    • Dear Nancy,
      Oh yes, and sooooo many women with you! Thank you for trying and please keep me informed!
      Greetings, Mireille Mettes

  3. I absolutely adore my mum without her I would not be the person I an today and I wish she was alive so I could thank her with all my heart . I am lost with detaching my self from her and I have five amazing sister I don’t think this is for me

    • Dear Maria,
      Don’t worry about detaching from somehow you love so deeply! It will then simply have no effect, because it is in your best interest to have these wonderful relationships. The MIR-Method always works in your best interest. When you do step 3. ‘Detach mother’ you detach yourself NOT from your mother, but from all other women you have encountered in your life and that still bothers you: a schoolgirl that bullied you, a teacher that was unfair, a dentist’s assistant that treated you badly… any other women. Can you have a look at that?
      And… I am very happy for you that you have such a great family!
      Greetings, Mireille Mettes

  4. After doing the MIR method I observed when speaking about a past situation connected to my Mother that there was no emotional charge or reaction. I was detached and free for the first time in many, many, years. it felt so very liberating. A sincere Thank You

    • Dear Kathie,
      So wonderful you felt it that way! That’s when you know you have overcome it. Great! Happy for you!
      Greetings, Mireille Mettes

  5. My Mother is in her 90’s now and I am her caregiver. Previous to starting with the MIR method I had lived a life of fearing my Mother, even as a woman in my 60’s I was fearful to ever let her down – put my own needs before hers in any way, and basically returned to being a 7 year old child in her presence as soon as she became displeased in any way- even about a minor issue…. Basically the MIR method has saved my life.. I had been depressed, fearful about the future and at the end of my tether…and now I manage to stay my true 60+ year old self – with no feelings of guilt when I can’t fit in with her wishes or decide to have some time out for myself and I must say that she seems to be a much happier person for it. This has also had benefits for helping me with my female friend relationships and I no longer make excuses not to see people or socialize with them… I could go on all day but basically my whole life has changed in many other ways including lowering blood pressure and coming to grips with some very debilitating health issues…. 🙂

    • Dear Catharine,
      How absolutely wonderful for you! The way you describe it shows so clearly what is was: returning to your 7 year old self as soon as you were with your mother. I am so happy for you that you found back the strong woman that you really are. And to think how you can be an example to others now (well, that’s my mission, to always make people see their greatness, sorry to take further steps.) I am really happy and hope so many more people will want to use the MIR-Method to set themselves free! Great!
      Have a great life!
      Greetings, Mireille Mettes

    • This describes my relationship with my mother exactly and I just turned 60 a couple of weeks ago. Maybe 60 is the charm. Thank you for writing how the MIR Method has helped in this situation.

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