68. The Main Cause of Headache
I find headaches terrible. I rarely have one, but when I do, I am horribly aware of it. As if having a headache fully shuts you down. Your ability to think becomes muddled; you can’t see straight anymore. Everything is too much for you: images, movement, odors, touch, food and sounds. You can’t handle anything and would prefer to retreat into your bed. Headache is a type of pain that stops your whole life. “Stop”, your body seems to say. “Total rest, NOW!”
The origin of headache
What became very clear to my clients and myself is that there is one common cause underlying headaches and that is: grief. New grief about something that has recently happened or old grief about something that happened a long time ago. The headache results from the moment that you don’t pay any attention to your grief. Some people repress that memory. Some people can’t cry. Some people don’t want to cry.
How were you raised? Were you allowed to cry? Were you able to feel vulnerable, small? Or were you expected to be strong: “Save your tears for later, you’re going to need them more.” What happened when you fell, when Grandma died, when you had to cry because a family pet died? Were you allowed to cry, did you have an arm put around you, could sit on someone’s lap? Or did you have to be strong and did an adult wipe your tears from your face? Or, in other words, did being strong and not crying become your survival technique? Then you can let go of that now!
What does the MIR-Method do for headaches?
People who do the MIR-Method often report having fits of crying. If you read the above you will understand why that is: you are working through old grief. And that is super! To be honest, I’m always super happy when someone reports that she needed to cry because then the MIR-Method is working and you are cleaning up! Tears are cleansing, cathartic. And although you can be exhausted afterwards, it can also often give you enormous relief.
In the 9 steps, there are many ingredients that cause headaches to be slowly but surely deleted out of your system. These steps are:
Step 1: “Optimize acidity” ensures that the acidity is optimal throughout your body, so that waste products can be discharged out of your body. You can actively help by drinking water every day. Without step 1, step 2 doesn’t work.
Step 2: “Detox all toxicity”. This step helps to discharge waste products out of your body more quickly, so your head doesn’t need to create pain. Think about such things as: colorings, food additives and heavy metals. Also, energies that don’t belong to you are disposed of via step 2.
Step 3: “Detach father. Detach mother.” In this case, it’s about your father or mother’s grief that you still carry with you. Children often take their parents’ grief upon themselves, but this is not necessary. With step 3 you let go of the grief you so lovingly wanted to carry for your parents.
Step 4: “Clear meridians”. The large intestine meridian is again important here. This meridian plays a large role in crying. People who want to be in control and find it difficult to move with the flow of life, often have difficulty crying. When you clear the large intestine meridian, the energy starts flowing again and your ability to let go and to cry will improve. The large intestine meridian makes a fork in the direction of the lung meridian. These two meridians are brother and sister (Yin and Yang) and influence each other. The lung meridian is especially involved in grief and mourning.
Step 5: “Supplement all shortages”. Oxytocin and serotonin are hormones that make you feel good. By a shortage of the hormones, heavier emotions such as helplessness, hopelessness and defeatism gain the upper hand. When your body supplements these hormones, you will have more resilience to deal with setbacks or bad news.
Step 6: “Balance hormone system”. The hormone system is incredible! It is so complex that we still don’t know much about it. What I do know is that grief has a disruptive effect on your hormone system. If you’ve been through a lot in life that you haven’t dealt with, it can cause problems with your hormone system. The other beautiful thing is that many women who experience hormonal fluctuations have crying fits. Think, for example, of the moment just before menstruation, during menopause, or of women who receive hormone injections because of their desire to have a child. It is perfectly normal and a form of processing.
Step 7: “Fulfill basic needs”. With this step, you also fulfill the need for Comfort. The arm around your shoulder, the hug, the sweet words that you missed when you were sad as a child. You will fulfill it all so you can comfort yourself from now on.
Step 8: “Optimize Chakras and Aura”. The chakras in your head can become disrupted. This can occur when you lose touch with your higher self or when you receive too much intuitive information and can’t process it. One of the chakra is at your third eye (between your two eyes) and on the top of your head (your “crown chakra”). If these are disturbed, you can literally get a headache in this spot. With the MIR-Method you clear these chakras and repair the connection with your higher self through which your intuitive energy can freely flow again.
Step 9: “Clarify mission”. People who continue to resist their mission can create headaches for themselves. That happens because they continue to hold onto activities, work, relationships, place of residence, friendships or family while they actually feel unhappy. The grief this causes can then cause headaches.
In short, do you have headaches? Do these steps:
1. Leave painkillers for what they are and ask yourself this question first: what type of headache is this?
2. Rest and feel: what grief am I feeling?
3. Do the MIR-Method.
I’d love to hear from you: how are your headaches? Have they decreased with the MIR-Method? Please let me know below! Thank you!
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My wish for you is a headache-free life!
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A few days ago, I had a really bad headache and I’ve been practicing MIR-Method for almost 3 weeks now. Generally, I prefer taking a pain-killer immediately if the pain is severe, but that day I thought of using MIR-Method instead. To my surprise, the moment I ended doing all the nine steps, I could already feel 90% better than before and the rest of the pain also got subsided in an hour or so!
This is such an effective method that I’ve come across till now considering my health condition. I’d like to also share that I am a wheelchair user and have spinal cord injury for almost 7 years now. I’m 30 years old. I just wonder if I should keep on using the MIR-Method regularly after completing 4 weeks, or should I discontinue it after 4 weeks?
I have been using all the steps of this method since beginning and I can already see the changes in my body, be it the colour of my urine, or the chronic pains. Is there anything particular that you could suggest me for the spinal cord injury? Also, thank you so much for inventing this wonderful method and initiative! May God bless you abundantly! 🙂
I agree with each step mentioned by you in the article! I had a really bad headache a few days back, but this time instead of heading towards a pain-killer, I thought of giving MIR-Method a valid chance. To my surprise, the moment I ended doing all the 9 steps mentioned by you, I felt 90% immediate relief in my pain and the remaining 10% also got subsided. In love with this method! Thank you so much for introducing it to the world. I’ve a Spinal Cord Injury and am a wheelchair user. It’s about to be 4 weeks to me, can I continue with it even after that please? I have been doing all the 9 steps since beginning. I hope that’s the correct way of doing it, unless I feel otherwise. If there is anything else I can do to improve my health, please do share. Thank you once again! 🙂
Could you please let me know if this method is safe during pregnancy. Thank you
Yes, it is absolutely safe during pregnancy. Just think about it as something totally natural, not as an illness. Also have a look at question 7B. Lots of good luck!
Greetings, Mireille Mettes