173. The Usefulness of Sighing
You know, there’s something I don’t understand. It’s about videos on TV and YouTube of people who take a nasty fall through some clumsy movement on a bike, inline skates, a moped or a lawn mower or while dancing. It’s shown because it’s supposed to be funny. I once fell, slamming my front teeth into the sidewalk as a child. Funny? Absolutely not! Why then do people laugh about these things? Because it’s a natural, physical reaction. What happens is too awful to cope with and a laugh reaction develops. Does that mean that it’s funny? No, it’s awful and embarrassing. And it comforts us. “Thankfully I’m not the one who fell!”
Laugh of fright
The first reaction people have with such videos is to be startled! They sympathize with the other person who fell… and laugh it away. The scare is converted to a laugh. The harder the laugh, the more startled someone was. It’s a necessary mechanism within us so we can cope with being startled. People also react this way to bad news. Instead of being scared or crying, they laugh. Not because it’s funny but because that’s the way they can cope with it. It’s too awful for words, to awful to be able to cry, total shock. Well, then laugh.
Laughing something away
People who laugh a lot and especially at moments that they really shouldn’t are people whose hearts are full of pain. These people make jokes, too many and too often. During serious conversations they throw something out there to lighten the atmosphere. It’s a wonderful quality. These people are Heart-Enlighteners. At the same time, these ‘Relievers of the heart’ can have so much pain that they don’t want to be serious because they can’t be. Being serious confronts them too much with their pain, with memories that contain so unimaginably much heartache that all they can do is laugh, to not have to feel the pain.
Heart problems and the Heart meridian
People with heartache and sadness have blockages in the heart meridian. These blockages can cause psychological problems such as nervousness, restlessness, over-excitement and laughing too much or inappropriately. According to Chinese medicine, it can even cause such physical problems as fatigue, bad circulation, palpitations, heart and vascular disease, feeling of pressure in the upper torso, chest pain, stuttering, sores on the tongue or extreme transpiration. These problems don’t just appear but usually take several decades to develop. Decades of suppressing intense heartache.
The MIR-Method and the Heart meridian
If you do the 9 steps of the MIR-Method, you remove the blockages, layer for layer, from your heart meridian. This happens via step 4: Clear meridians. This step is supported by the other 8 steps. How can you begin to live your mission (step 9) with a “blocked” heart? And how can you grow if you continue to feel hindered by childhood memories involving present or absent parents (see step 3: Detach father. Detach mother).
This explains why many people go through periods of crying. By crying, you let go of old pain and cleanse yourself from the intense dragging force within you. And the best thing of all: you don’t need to relive your memories (see article 169)! You only have to let go! The MIR-Method helps you with this.
The golden glow of sighing
When your Heart meridian frees itself, you can recognize this through the sighing. Those deep sighs that seem to come all the way from under your ribcage. Such a sigh repeats itself, maybe even 5 times in one day. If you have one of these “sighing phases”, be very happy because you are liberating your heart! Congratulations! As the Dutch saying goes, “A sigh gives air to a heart filled with pain”.
And how about you? Have you also noticed that you sighed very deeply several times, one after the other? Are you also familiar with heartache? I’d love to hear about it from you. Thank you for sharing!
My wish for you is that you can liberate your heart!
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