115. Get Rid of Self-Sabotage!
Do you hold yourself back in life? Are you standing in the way of your own happiness? Maybe you recognize this. You arrive too late for meetings, don’t fill your tank soon enough and your car stands still, documents are “accidentally” deleted on your computer. Not making telephone calls, not finishing projects. Not putting your hand up when you really want to. Not approaching someone. It’s very human and everyone does it. The trick is to ask yourself, “How long do you want to continue to self-sabotage yourself?”
People are full of self-sabotage. I list here the top 10 most commonly heard excuses to limit yourself and possibly you know a few more.
- Who do I think I am?
- What will other people think about me?
- Why should I make a choice to benefit myself? I couldn’t possibly do that.
- Then I’d lose people.
- Then I’ll be shut out.
- I don’t want to be hurt.
- Then they’ll look at me weirdly.
- I’m afraid that they’ll think I’m dumb.
- I wouldn’t be a good person because then I’d be neglecting my duties.
- Then I’ll be alone.
These are all messages we tell ourselves but which are based on old pain. They spring from experiences in our pasts and we pretend they are true as well. The trick is to shake them off and to realize that today is a new day with new opportunities! You can make new decisions today and follow your heart!
The MIR-Method and self-sabotage
With the MIR-Method you work slowly but surely on this clever self-sabotage. The convictions that lie deeply within you slowly melt away. You understand ever better what you’d like to do. You get an increasingly strong grip on your life.
Step 3: ‘Detach father. Detach mother’ plays a large role in this. What convictions have you absorbed from your parents? Or from other men and women? With step 3 you detach yourself from these people and also from the convictions you have absorbed from them. You make room for convictions that will support you! “I can do what I’d like.” “I can be who I’d like to be.” “My appearance can be as I wish.” “I can make the choices that I’d like to even when others don’t like them.”
Step 7: ‘Fulfill basic needs’ also helps. With this one you enlarge your inner sense of self-confidence and you’ll notice that you are not dependent on others for your happiness. You don’t need other people’s approval; you give it to yourself!
With step 8: ‘Optimize chakras and aura’ you work, among other things, on freeing your Heart chakra. This enables you to listen better to your heart. You feel stronger which makes you happy and gives you energy. This makes it easier to make decisions.
Step 9: ‘Clarify mission’ enables you to take steps towards your mission, towards the reason you are here on earth. What do you stand for? What do you want to show the world? What is inside of you that still needs to be said? Where can you contribute? With step 9 this all becomes slowly but surely clearer and every inner obstruction becomes weaker until it disappears.
Always do all 9 steps
Even though I don’t mention all 9 steps above, be sure to always do all 9! They cooperate with each other and need each other!
And how about you? What convictions have you let go of? Do you notice that your self-sabotage is lessening since doing the MIR-Method? I’d love to hear about it from you! Please write about it below! Thank you!
You should always ask a MIR-Method coach about personal questions!
My wish for you is that you continuously feel freer to live your life as you would like to!
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I know I have a lot of fear that I working on, but my question is this…while doing the MIR method are hidden issues going to come up or just go away without me even knowing what the fear was? If it does come to the surface what do I do with it… forgive myself, recognize the fear and let it go…and does it go away with the MIR method or is there something I need to be doing along with it. Thanks for sharing your special gifts
Yes, sometimes old emotions resurface. As if your subconscience wants you to have a last look or to learn something from it. You can then do the 9 steps one extra time, holding your hand on the place where you sense the emotion coming from. Have a look at this article for this extra technique: “120. An Extra MIR-Method Technique.” Fear is often in the stomach or chest and sadness is often in the throat. It is all different with all people, so please feel where in your body is the emotion.
Greetings, Mireille Mettes
This is perfect I am going to try this…my area of concern is around my thymus (chest area)..just so I get this right, I place my left hand on my thymus and stroke that hand with my right, or are you saying instead of stroking the top of the hand I can just stroke the skin of my chest/thymus area? Thanks again Mireille
To be precise: both your suggested ways work! Always stroke skin on skin, so yes, you can stroke directly on the skin of your chest. However, should you start to feel other sensations on other body parts, then you should continu with both hands, one on top of the other, just like you described.
Greetings, Mireille Mettes
After a very stressful period in my life I recently started doing the MIR method everyday twice a day. My body automatically gave up caffeine drinks so I drank hot water instead for a full week and now just have one cup of tea very occasionally. I have felt emotional but far more balanced within I am off medication and sleep better. I haven’t finished the month yet but intend to do so, and I am grateful that a friend from Switzerland recommended this to me. Sincere gratitude.
Such wonderful results you have created in your body & life! Well done! Could you tell me what kind of medication you took, what for? If you want to share, that is…
I am very happy you sleep so much better, because sleep is like the huge fundament under our health. Happy for you!
Greetings! Mireille Mettes