Regret is the most useless thing that exists. There’s no point in continuing to look back at what has happened. At what you did or didn’t do. What has happened has happened. The choice you made you made then. What is done is done. The most difficult thing is to find inner peace about it. You don’t have to expect it from someone else, but being true to yourself and forgiving yourself and declaring yourself ok, are essential. I wrote about forgiving yourself before in article nr. 50, “Have You Forgiven Yourself Already?” It included a nice exercise you can do with the MIR-Method. This time I’d like to take a look at regret because it can even cause physical problems!
Do wrong choices exist?
Do you hold regret? Do you still get angry with yourself? Do you still often think, “If only I…., then things would be different”? Then you are holding on to regret, and that will make you sick. The NLP (Neuro-linguistic Programming) has wonderful presuppositions. Here are two of them:
1. People make the best choice they can at the time.
2. Behind every behaviour there is a positive intention.
This means that you always make the best choice that you can at that particular moment. In any case, you meant well for yourself. A 12-year old child makes a different choice than a 48-year old adult. If you had known more or been able to foresee better, you might have made a different choice. Don’t regret your choice! It was the best choice you could make at that moment with what you knew then!
Regret causes illness
If you hold onto your feelings of regret you will make yourself sick. You are not forgiving yourself for something you could not possibly have prevented. You didn’t know it would work out that way; otherwise you would have done things differently!
Holding onto regret disturbs your immune system by blocking your Circulation meridian. There are great pictures of this meridian on the Internet. This blockage can cause shoulder problems and pain in your middle finger, but also disturbances in sexual matters, such as problems with intimacy. Further, there is a link with the sexual organs and this can cause problems with your hormone system, such as menstruation or menopausal problems.
Learn from this!
What can help you is to look at the situation you regret and learn from it. What did you do that you should never do again? What consequences could you not have foreseen? Can you foresee them the next time? What caused you to make that choice? Were you inexperienced or naive? Did you act on an impulse? Would you do this again? What have you learned from it? What can you take with you further in your life?
I often hear that you should write down what it is you regret. Fold that piece of paper and then set it on fire. A ritual burning. Make a holy moment out of it. I’ve done this a few times and yes, it works. One tip: do it outside!
The MIR-Method and regret
The MIR-Method also deals with regret. By stroking step 3: ‘Detach father. Detach mother’, you detach yourself from your father and mother but also from any other man or woman you hold regret about. As long as you feel regret, you remain connected to the people involved in your choice. And that’s not necessary anymore. You did what you did then and that’s over now. You don’t have to feel the energy connection with those people anymore. You can be free again!
In step 4: ‘Clear meridians’, the Circulation meridian is also dealt with. Emotions that are trapped because of the blockage to this meridian are erased, layer for layer. It’s possible that you start to feel more sexual freedom, that menstrual problems lessen and that you have more energy.
Step 6: ‘Balance hormone system’ works hard to restore balance to your entire hormone system. It is enormously complex, but your subconscious knows what it needs to do. By restoring balance in the hormone system, you also strengthen your Circulation meridian, which makes it easier to let go of regret. Hormone-related problems will also disappear.
Note: Even though I only name a few of the 9 steps, always do all 9!
And how about you? Did you do or say something you regretted afterwards? Were you able to let go of this regret by using the MIR-Method? I hope so! Let me know about it below. Thank you!
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My wish for you is that you can stroke your regret away forever!
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