76. Five Questions for Taking Decisive Action
Smoking, drinking alcohol, taking care of an ungrateful person, nail biting, endless shopping, buying useless stuff, working without enjoyment, mandatory visits. We all do things we’d rather not. And to NOT do them seems completely impossible! As if we are under some kind of spell. As if we can’t imagine that we could stop. The nice thing about the MIR-Method is, without your really noticing it, you are removing all kinds of things from your system that no longer suit you. And if you continue doing this long enough, you can even effortlessly let go!
Have you already taken decisive action?
Are you doing the MIR-Method? Then you can achieve various results. If your physical complaints diminish, that’s wonderful, because then you have clear proof that it is working. If your complaints stay the same or if you don’t really have any physical complaints, the trick is to be able to see changes in other areas. It’s possible, for example, that the MIR-Method helps you to make decisions or that you have stopped doing something.
Which decision is the most difficult?
If there is something that people find difficult, it is taking decisive action. Especially regarding something you’ve done for a long time or if it’s something that is very important. Recently, I saw a film in which was said, “The most important decisions are the most difficult”. This is also my opinion. And there is one decision that is very difficult for very many people, especially for “givers”: choosing for you!
Do the 5-question checklist and decide!
Putting you first. Feeling how much energy something costs. Being in contact with yourself and your needs. Those are the great lessons in life. The more sensitive you are, the greater the challenge. When you finally see that you are the most important one here on earth your decision become much easier. Check yourself using these 5 questions. About your buying habits, for example. Or, about your eating habits. Or about the contact you have with someone. Or about an obligation that you’ve agreed to.
- Does it make me cheerful?
- Do I feel myself growing because of it?
- Am I more relaxed afterward?
- Do I have more energy afterward?
- Does the happy feeling hang on for more than an hour?
If you answered “yes” 5 times then you can safely continue with the habit or the other person. Did you have a “no”? Ask yourself if you should continue.
How many warnings do you still need?
Everyone gets warnings. Either because you forget about you or because you pushed yourself further than your own boundaries. You just keep on going. “Don’t complain, buckle down.” “Come on, just a little further.” “Some people have it harder than you.” Or we reassure ourselves, “Next time, I’ll do it differently”. “Oh, it won’t be so bad.” And we know so many more of those sentences in our minds that we just keep our heads stuck in the sand until we get a warning. Maybe a fall with painful wrists and headache. As long as you don’t want to admit that you need to stop, your body will continue to give signals. Just as long as is necessary to get through to you and for you to take decisive action.
Will you listen in time?
When you listen to yourself, have restored the contact with yourself, you have a good sense about what you want and don’t want. Do I want to snack? Do I need these cigarettes? How long will I continue to drag myself to work? Why do I drink alcohol anyway? Do I really want to read that negative news article? Why do I really smear this cream on my face? Do I really want to do this course of study? How happy will these new shoes make me? The stronger the contact with yourself and the more balanced you are, the better you can feel what you want or don’t want. And then…then comes the moment that you “suddenly” can stop. Effortlessly! Your habit, your addiction; whatever it is, you can let go effortlessly. As if you had never done it! It’s natural; your system lets go of it! And it’s easier than ever before! Hooray, freedom!
I’m curious, is there something you’ve stopped doing because of the MIR-Method? And, do you like it? Please write about it below. Thank you! (Personal questions should always be asked of a MIR-Method coach!)
My wish for you is a wonderful process of letting go and that whatever it is will eventually disappear out of your life effortlessly!
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You asked why I stopped using the MIR Method. And I DEFINITELY noticed that it helped me. Well, I believe I was supposed to say the phrases twice daily for so many months and then stop for a while. So I repeated the sayings religiously twice a day for a year or something – then stopped. I don’t remember when I was supposed to start. I had the phrases memorized. Now I forgot them. And I bought those little cards but only kept one. I have it somewhere. If I start again, I don’t want to stop.
The MIR-Method has helped me and caused me to let go of old patterns. Detach father/mother, fulfill basic needs, chakra/aura and clarify mission. Those were the most important points for me. Every time I said them, I got a special feeling. I freed myself from old obligations and feelings of guilt, started taking better care of myself, have been setting boundaries and said goodbye to friendships which didn’t function, while other friendships have become closer again. I’m more attuned to my spiritual needs, take time to read, paint and be in nature. My mission is to love the people around me; it doesn’t matter how. Through volunteer work, through being a caregiver, through a conversation and having fun. Thank you for sharing this simple but effective method. Help will cross everyone’s path, we just have to have the courage to accept it and see what’s really living inside of us!
Dear Mireille, I am practicing the MIr-method only since July. Fortunately I don’t have complaints. Now I realize that I prepare my meals with much more love and I have nearly stopped eating sweets. I notice that I enjoy food much more und more intensive.
GREAT! Those are the signals you can look for and yes, it has all to do with a shift inside you: you are loving yourself even more. Wonderful!
Greetings, Mireille Mettes