People can be quite difficult for each other. They can manipulate each other, lie to each other, can be violent or want the other for themselves. They get jealous, angry, resentful, sad, claim others, induce feelings of guilt, and so on. We’re an interesting species in the universe, considering all the feelings we can have and all the things we put our fellow human beings through! I’ve heard that if you come to earth and are able to forgive someone, you’re doing just about the bravest thing you could ever do!

Not forgiving someone is like poison

If you don’t forgive someone, you remain attached to them, unknowingly connected. And at any point in the day, you can be confronted with memories, those containing unprocessed emotions like anger, hatred, annoyance, sadness, and fear. What are you doing to yourself by holding on to that? In fact, every time you think about that other person, it’s like poison in your system. You’re unconsciously giving your body instructions to make you ill. You’re lowering your vibration, making yourself sick. Is that other person really worth making yourself ill over?

People are clumsy

Most people have not been taught how to interact with others. Understanding other people’s feelings, respecting others, but where do you actually learn this? Not a school and unless you’re lucky not at home. Meaning… most people have to figure it out themselves. Previous generations had particularly hard time because they had little access to self-education, such as through the internet or talk shows. It was matter of self-discovery, trail and error, and above all, learning to protect yourself. You could do this either by fighting with a show of force and having a big mouth, or by making yourself small and invisible through remaining silent and obediently complying.

Clumsy behaviour causes misery

People who haven’t learned how to treat others respectfully exhibit clumsy behaviour. Their behaviour therefore causes misery. They harm others through violence or intimidation. They belittle others by not giving them space. Or they do it from the bottom up, which also causes misery. People have learned to make themselves small and invisible also cause misery. They cause people to feel guilty, they provoke disrespectful behaviour, and they can drive people to despair: they can never repay you for everything you have done for them.

The ultimate detachment

As long as you’re still entangled in contact with the other person, you remain tethered to them. No matter how hard you try, they will continue to influence your life. Very subtle and perhaps very unobtrusively, but the influence remains. To truly detach yourself, only one thing is necessary: forgiving the other person. No matter what that person has done to you, no matter how they have let you down, forgiving them is the only way to detach yourself from them. And… forgiving someone is the bravest act you can ever perform in your life!

Forgiveness and the MIR-Method

Forgiving someone can sometimes be the hardest thing there is to do. The MIR-Method can help you with that. Step 3 ‘Detach father. Detach mother.’ was developed especially for this purpose. As soon as you say these words, while calming your conscious by stroking your hand, you trigger something in your subconscious. Your subconscious is infinitely more powerful that your conscious mind. If you instruct your subconscious to ‘detach from father’, your subconscious works on all the men you’re still unconsciously attached to. And with ‘detach from mother’, you work on detaching yourself from all the women you unconsciously still want to settle scores with. Your subconscious will get to work on it right away!

Through step 4 ‘Clear Meridians’, your subconscious removes all emotions from your system that are still stuck in your system, in relation to that other person. Once these emotions are processed, it becomes much easier to let go and forgive that other person.

You will notice that you are reminded of that other person less and less often. Or that images, memories, and words come to mind less frequently. It may also be that you meet that other person less and less often. Or that meeting them no longer makes you feel nervous, but that you can remain completely calm. Just observe how things change!

Forgiving yourself

Have you forgiven someone else? Then remember to also forgive yourself. For your part in it or for what you did to others. You are only human!

To help yourself take a step forward today, you can write below who you (consciously) want to forgive. Someone who you’re truly done with. Someone who you want to say goodbye to with love. Write it below and give yourself a big push towards liberation by forgiving the other person. Thank you for that!

May you have peace of mind and freedom in you heart!
Kind regards, Mireille Mettes

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