“To Have to” is a remarkable verb! I “have to” get working again. I “have to” look nice. I “have to” keep my garden nice for my neighbors. I always “have to” send the members of my family a card when it’s their birthday. I “have to” listen to my … Continue reading →
You put your coat on and feel a stab of pain go through your shoulder. You comb your hair more often with the other hand. You drive the car more often with one hand on the lower half of the steering wheel. It’s too painful at the top of the … Continue reading →
Having an argument is one of the worst things. One person can no longer see that the other person means well. One misunderstanding builds upon another. Maybe you react more strongly because of your pain. Because you feel hurt, you become silent. Whichever word or style of silence you choose, … Continue reading →
“You’re ‘closed off’ if you sit with your arms crossed over each other.” “You’re not ‘open’ to others.” “You’re resisting others.” “You don’t cooperate and therefore don’t really want to grow.” Those are some of the labels you’ll hear. During a conversation. During a training session. During a meeting. The … Continue reading →
“Good for him. He had a fever but kept on going anyway! What a tough guy! Respect!” Got a bad cold but do you go to work anyway because they need you?! Or because you can’t let other people down? Your child is sick; home one day, and then the … Continue reading →
The decision has been made. You’re going to move! If you’re an adult, it’s a conscious choice and often gives you energy. You’re looking forward to the prospect of something new! If you were a child, you had two possible reactions: horrible anxiety or happy excitement. I hope that you, … Continue reading →
There are, roughly speaking, two types of people: people who give you energy and people who cost you energy. You’re visiting someone and halfway through the visit you begin to yawn and become increasingly tired in spite of having been fit when you entered. Your head is becoming increasingly foggy. … Continue reading →
The last child leaves home. You have no one to take care of any more. No feet stomping on the staircase. No laundry all over the place, no more friends coming and going, no half-empty packages of cookies in the cabinet or empty bottles on the kitchen counter. No unexpected … Continue reading →
What does anger mean to you? Is it threatening? Do you think it makes you seem weak when you show that you’re angry? Do you restrain yourself, because the other person doesn’t listen anyway? Or, because the other person may begin a counterattack? Or, are you afraid that you will … Continue reading →
Would you like to stop smoking, but can’t? Or, have you quit before, but keep starting up again? Then you could try the MIR-Method. To stop smoking demands a lot of you and causes you to place yourself in a dilemma. Your head wants to stop, but you are still … Continue reading →
You get out of bed, get dressed and eat breakfast, sitting. You go outside and sit in your car. You drive to your office, walk to your desk, and sit for 7 hours. Once in a while you get up for coffee. Then you sit down again. You drive home. … Continue reading →
With the MIR-Method, I strive towards ‘self-healing for everyone’. It’s fantastic when the MIR-Method spreads to everyone who benefits from doing it. People can take their health into their own hands and prevent problems from developing. Working towards and contributing to this makes me feel happy. The idea that it … Continue reading →
Taking something for granted is the strangest human characteristic. Assuming that the other person is there, that there are groceries in the store, that the baker bakes bread, that grain is growing in the fields and that the sun will come up tomorrow. Or that you accept people making assumptions … Continue reading →
Approximately 1.2 million people in the Netherlands and Belgian Flanders are estimated to suffer from some form of arthrosis. And the number of people with arthrosis is increasing. Arthrosis is a particularly unpleasant and frustrating affliction. People who have arthrosis wake up in the morning with stiff knees or hips. … Continue reading →
We talk to each other daily, and also listen. Still, listening is a specific skill that we didn’t learn at school. Well, you had to be quiet and listen to the teacher but that isn’t what I mean here. I’m talking about really listening. Hearing what the other person says … Continue reading →
You take your socks off and still see the tops of them in your legs. Really deeply etched into your skin. You can still see where your shoes sat on your feet. Your legs retain too much fluid. Or you have to take your ring off because it’s becoming too … Continue reading →
You stare at your computer screen but don’t know any more what you wanted to look up. you walk to another room to get something and can’t remember what it was. You want to read a few pages but notice that your thoughts wander or become cloudy and an hour … Continue reading →
‘Couldn’t you have thought of that yourself?’ ‘Why can’t you just feel that?’ These are just a few of the reproaches which indicate that someone is disappointed. Or indignant. Someone has an unspoken expectation that someone else didn’t fulfill. And that someone is often a woman, because women are good … Continue reading →
Celebrating your birthday, hooray! It’s the best day of the year. But not everyone feels that way. Many people have bad memories about their birthdays. When it’s their birthday, they don’t feel happy. They like to just skip the day, preferably forgetting that it’s their birthday. There’s something dark about … Continue reading →
Are you familiar with the phenomenon ‘bucket list’? That is a list with all of your great wishes, the ones you want to make come true before you die. Taking a trip overseas, having a reunion with a family member, opening up a yoga studio, writing a book, taking a … Continue reading →
Celebrating New Year’s Eve seems like fun. ‘We have to have a good time.’ Finger foods, watching TV and fireworks at midnight. For many people, it is, however, a moment when they have to try to bear up, because the last days of the year have a way of being … Continue reading →
In the school choir we are practising John Lennon’s song, ‘Happy Xmas (War is Over)’. You may know this song as, ‘So this is Christmas’. I was moved when I realized what we were singing: ‘War is over, if you want it’. Christmas, days of reflection. Looking back at the … Continue reading →
Pain during intercourse is not often spoken about. It is very unpleasant when you want to enjoy intercourse but can’t because it is painful or because penetration is unsuccessful. And what if this doesn’t happen just once, but very often? What effect does that have on your self-confidence? And on … Continue reading →
Sit still, don’t fidget and go sit in your seat. It’s not easy for children who by nature want to move around. They can’t sit still and prefer moving around the entire day. Sit at the table? Ok, for five minutes, five loooooong minutes, and then, they immediately get up … Continue reading →
‘Sorry, honey, we can’t go to the football game tomorrow. Mom has to work.’ ‘No, you can’t have a dog. I’m sorry. I know I promised it to you but it’s just too much for me now.’ ‘Daddy can’t come to your birthday. I’m sorry, honey, you were looking forward … Continue reading →
