“Don’t tell anyone. He would be devastated.” “If they knew how things really are…” “It’s better if I keep it to myself, because otherwise…” “If only I hadn’t promised to keep it to myself.” “It’s our little secret, isn’t it?” “If you tell anyone, I know where to find you.” … Continue reading →
High blood pressure develops when your heart squeezes too intensely. Your heart pushes too much blood into your arteries. Your arteries come under increased pressure and if this goes on for a number of years, it can have dangerous consequences. But this doesn’t have to happen. The trick is to … Continue reading →
“It’s your fault! You should have paid attention!” “Because of you, we’re too late now!” “Why isn’t it finished yet? You were supposed to make sure that it was ready!” Blamers always see other people’s mistakes everywhere and forget their own part. For example, at weddings where brides are trying … Continue reading →
“Really, who does she think she is? Phew!” The indignation is expressed behind your back. People don’t appreciate it. Yes, you are a bearer of the truth. Someone who doesn’t mince his or her words and who tells it like it is. “That’s the way it is, so that’s what … Continue reading →
Music is magical. It is one of the greatest wonders of life on earth. Music connects. For many people, music is the motor of their existence. It brings people together. It gets people into motion. Music can resolve conflicts. It can even heal people! It stimulates your intuition. Music is … Continue reading →
Gossiping, talking about people behind their back, is the cause of a lot of misery. It creates an incomplete picture of reality and leads to misunderstandings. This is a serious form of miscommunication because the consequences are huge. It creates distance between people! When someone believes whatever someone else says, … Continue reading →
The summer vacation is usually the moment to get some distance from your daily life. You go somewhere with your family or partner, friends or acquaintances and are gloriously away from everything. You leave your routine for what it is and go abroad! There, at your destination, it’s wonderful. You … Continue reading →
Grinding teeth, waking up in the morning with clenched jaws, painful teeth and liking to chew during the day: chips, gum or candy. They are all clues that you are under too much stress. Stress develops when you are frustrated or angry but don’t do enough with it. You store … Continue reading →
Grandma gives you one of those itchy hand knit sweaters. You don’t like it, you don’t feel comfortable in it and yet, you still have to be thankful for it. “Shouldn’t you thank your Grandmother?” “Thank you Grandma,” you say dutifully. Gratitude feels uncomfortable to many people. The feeling that … Continue reading →
Not being able to forgive yourself is the most poisonous thing there is. Berating yourself, punishing yourself such as, “Nothing I do is good, it’s my fault”, “If I hadn’t been here, it would have gone well”, “If only I hadn’t been born”, “Sorry for my existence”. These are strong … Continue reading →
No one wants conflicts. Nobody wants to argue. And yet, they often happen. Is it a mistake in our DNA? Is it inherent to being human? Do there always have to be arguments and conflicts? Or can we rise above ourselves and solve conflicts? How do conflicts develop? It’s very … Continue reading →
Losing someone dear, it’s the the tough side of life. Why did this have to happen? What good does it do? If someone dies whom you love very much, the reality of it can be so difficult that you can’t deal with it. You have to close yourself off, put … Continue reading →
Being decisive, making decisions. Choosing one thing and letting the other go. Making a choice is not easy. We are afraid of making the wrong decision; afraid of losing something. And what will replace that? Am I doing the right thing? Is this the right decision? It can sometimes drive … Continue reading →
Being laughed at is one of the worst humiliations that exists. Someone picks you out as the target of ridicule and the spectators laugh with him. They exclude you from the group. Like a pariah. Those who laugh do it out of fear of being rejected themselves. Laugh or be … Continue reading →
One of the advantages of the MIR-Method is that it brings people closer together. People notice becoming milder towards other people and being able to see more quickly what the other person is struggling with. Often, people who seem angry are actually afraid or hurt. I have heard several times … Continue reading →
