Christmas is the time for shopping. At least, according to advertizing. Your wife will only be happy if you buy the most expensive perfume or diamonds for her. At Christmas, you drink a cold soda that begins with a C and ends with an A. Something that could just as … Continue reading →
We talk to each other daily, and also listen. Still, listening is a specific skill that we didn’t learn at school. Well, you had to be quiet and listen to the teacher but that isn’t what I mean here. I’m talking about really listening. Hearing what the other person says … Continue reading →
If you had a father or mother who didn’t set boundaries for themselves, he/she set the example that it’s ok to let people walk all over you. That it’s ok to do more than someone else and moreover, not be thanked for it. It causes you to let yourself be … Continue reading →
Step 7: ‘Fulfill basic needs’ is a very important MIR-Method step. It ensures that all the needs that you missed having fulfilled during your youth, become fulfilled. Basic needs are for example: Love, Respect, Being Noticed, Being Heard, Safety or Protection. This time I’m looking at the basic need for … Continue reading →
Stroking, cuddling, caressing; they are good for us. When our skin is touched, something wonderful happens in our brains. A certain substance is formed, the hormone oxytocin. It is pronounced ‘ok-see-toe-sin’, with the emphasis on the “toe”. It’s always fun to pronounce such a strange word. But it is more … Continue reading →
New Year has releasing magic. Ending an entire year causes people to look back and reflect. How was this year? Wouldn’t miss it for anything? Or, “Thank God, it’s over”? Where do I stand now in life? How happy am I? What do I still want to do? With whom … Continue reading →
“Really, who does she think she is? Phew!” The indignation is expressed behind your back. People don’t appreciate it. Yes, you are a bearer of the truth. Someone who doesn’t mince his or her words and who tells it like it is. “That’s the way it is, so that’s what … Continue reading →
