“Your brother says that you broke this statue. Did you?” “No.” “Oh, come one, you always break things. Think again, did you let it fall by accident?”
“There’s a ghost in my room!” “Oh, go to sleep, there’s nothing there!” Click, light on. “See, there’s nothing. Now go to sleep and don’t let me hear you again!”
“Mom, Grandpa always holds me too long.” “Yes, sometimes he does that because he loves you so much.” “But Mom, I don’t like it.” “Oh, he doesn’t mean anything by it.”
“Miss Jeannie said that you tore a page out of Doreen’s notebook! You shouldn’t have done that.” “But Mom…I…”
The world becomes unsafe
These scenarios often happen: children who are not believed. They have to fend for themselves and become burdened with great confusion. Clever children know how to talk themselves out of it, but if you’re not as articulate, you can become overwhelmed with feelings and the words don’t come. The child thinks: “Mom doesn’t believe me! But it’s true?! Why doesn’t she believe me?” and the child decides: “It’s better for me to keep my mouth shut, otherwise she’ll just become angrier.” The child has to withdraw into itself and sees that there is a world that is not safe. Mom doesn’t protect me, doesn’t take my part. She doesn’t believe me. And to not lose her love the child has to conform and close the pain up inside itself. The world becomes a bit more unsafe.
What does it do to you when you are not believed?
It is undermining when the people you love don’t believe you. You let yourself be vulnerable, tell what has happened and to your amazement, they don’t believe you. It’s treated like nonsense, a fantasy story or you are called a liar. This forces you to depend on yourself: “If my own father and mother don’t believe me, who will?” A child decides to close what happened, the pictures, the memories, up inside itself and push them away. These become deep, unresolved traumas. The child can suffer the rest of its life from a feeling of loneliness and in addition: no longer have confidence in itself!
You no longer have confidence in yourself
If you are not believed, you have to deny a part of yourself. You don’t want to be rejected anymore. You want to belong. You learn through this that you can’t trust yourself because what you said or felt was not believed. Your parents said that. So you have to start thinking that your parents are right to continue receiving their love. And if your parents are right, then you must be untrustworthy. In short, what Mom and Dad say is the truth and what you see or feel is wrong.
Children become adults
People who weren’t believed as children and are now adults, live with the conviction that they can’t have confidence in themselves. The loneliness they carry within is immense. They still carry the feeling of not being believed by anyone. As well as the profound sense that they can’t trust their own perception. Someone else will know better.
The MIR-Method frees you again
If you do the MIR-Method, you work step by step on getting rid of your loneliness. Deep within, you begin to feel safe again. That happens via step 3: “Detach father. Detach mother” and via step 7: “Fulfill basic needs”. With step 4: “Clear meridians” and step 8: “Optimize Chakras and Aura”, you regain confidence in yourself and start to think like this: “If someone else doubts this, it’s their business. I know what I see and I know what I feel and I can, from now on, trust that.
Always do all 9 steps
The other steps of the MIR-Method support the above-mentioned ones. The 9 steps work together. So, always do all 9 steps, as they are explained in the instruction video!
Speak your truth
If you do the MIR-Method, you begin to feel and see more clearly your truth. You start to say more often what you think, even when that is different from the opinions of others. You become braver and dare to stick up for yourself, even when the reactions are sometimes strong. Maybe you will feel supported in this by what Ghandi said:
“When you are right, and you know that you are, say what you have to say. Even if you are the only one, the truth is still the truth.”
Do you recognize yourself in this? Do you already dare to say more about your truth by doing the MIR-Method? Do you trust your own opinion more?
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