Work! Perform! Be responsible! Obey! That’s your duty! We have been raised to listen to those who have authority over us. And we are supposed to obey. You have to work. Even when you don’t feel like it. Even when you’re tired and your body indicates that it needs rest. “Labor ennobles” stood on my grandfather’s mantle. I didn’t know what it meant. I think that it means something like, “work graces you” or “work is holy”. Something like that. As if work is the only important thing in life. As if work is that which we came to earth for. I wonder.
Do lazy people exist?
When someone says people are lazy, I don’t believe a word of it! People are not lazy! They are curious, enterprising creatures that are actually active. People want to see everything, and know and hear everything. You recognize this especially in children. They want to move, to experience things, to explore. And they especially want to have a good time, laugh with other people and make jokes. Keep the atmosphere good. Just get along with each other. People are not lazy. They can become passive through what they went through during childhood or through the fear of failure that has slowly developed within them.
Why do people become passive?
People are actively curious creatures. Until they become disenchanted. Why? It comes down to this: during their entire childhood, children hear: “Don’t do that!” Or they are punished. Children can deal with a lot, but one day, usually when they are in puberty, being a teenager, they give up. They stop wanting to do anything anymore. They can’t motivate themselves any more. They throw in the towel and become passive. They waste their time watching TV and gaming. Anything to get through the day.
Becoming an adult, they drag themselves in the morning to work that has long ceased to inspire them. It’s boring or they know the routines by now. Because it has to be done. Because they have to be obedient. Because they have to provide for their family.
There are two types of stress: one comes from work in which you constantly have to push yourself to the limit and the other is from work which is too boring and monotonous! Both cause the same amount of stress!
Have you changed jobs?
If you do the MIR-Method, you slowly reawaken the rebel in yourself. You become more playful and cheekier. You start to say “no” more often and feel it more clearly when you don’t want to do something. Because you are now an adult, the chance is greater this time that your “no” will be heard. And moreover, the rebel in you awakens and is not to be stopped! Your self-confidence increases and start to feel clearly what you do & don’t want to do
It’s also possible that this happens subconsciously. For example, that you stay home from work until you finally “cause” getting fired. Freedom! On the way to new or different work. People can find being fired very liberating. I experienced this myself and it was the first step in the direction of the MIR-Method. I’m so happy that it happened, even though I felt redundant at the time. But no, it was meant for me to be “freed” from an office job. Hurray!
Step 9: ‘Clarify mission’ is working
Don’t underestimate the last step of the MIR-Method. When I discovered the words ‘Clarify Mission’ I was at first confused. “Why do I need to have this step in a selfhealing method? That’s not about health, or is it?” I had never imagined how incredibly important this step is for your health! If you don’t give your life direction, or if you stand in the way of your own development, step 9 is there to get you moving again. You’ll finally pick up that course of study, get out of your job and look around you for what is out there for you. You get involved in volunteer work. You start taking care of your parents, full-time. You take other people’s children into your home, as a foster parent or child caregiver. You start taking care of a piece of nature. You take the freedom and make the space to live out your creativity. There are so many ways to turn a new leaf and doing more of what you want to do, no matter what other people think.
Thanks to step 3: ‘Detach father. Detach mother’, you detach yourself from other people’s opinions and can shake off what you think is expected of you. These are life-sized steps and that’s why these steps are sometimes taken for you, whether you want them to be taken or not. Large decisions are made for you. You are confronted by a change in your life’s path. Painful and irreversible. See it as a chance, a chance to start doing what you really want to do!
And how about you? Did you have this experience when you began doing the MIR-Method? That you found yourself in the middle of a big change concerning work? Were you transferred? Maybe your contract wasn’t extended? And what did this result in? Please let me know about it below. Thank you!
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My wish for you is that work becomes less ‘holy’ and that there is more play in your life!
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